What is it like dating someone with no social media presence? Is this something to be worried about?
What is it like dating someone with no social media presence whatsoever?
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I haven't done this yet, but I am considering it.
I joked about it with a person of a romantic interest who has zero online presence - as bad as not having a WhatsApp display picture. I think this is great for people who enjoy privacy.
It also reminds me of Chimamanda’s recent Blackbox interview with Ebuka, where she said something about her husband being a private person. Truthfully, there are only a few prints of Chimamanda's husband online. I already have a list of reasons to hide my relationships from social media and having someone with no social media presence just gives the perfect free ticket I am looking for.
Having a partner with no social media presence can be good sometimes. For example, I have seen many infidelity issues in a relationship start from online engagements and direct messages. I have read some articles about infidelity that provide research on which gender cheats more. Trends show that women in their late teens and early 20's cheat more by a slight margin, higher than men, while men in their marriageable years 30's and above cheat more than women. I haven't researched further to see the correlations between social media and infidelity, but I want to assume that it has some impact. I imagine that many women will prefer men without social media presence because it gives them a little confidence and trust in their partner.
Other benefits - it just helps people mind their business. Whether at the dating or marriage stage, couples are always bundled with unsolicited advice on social media. Sometimes, someone in a relationship with no online presence reduces the confidence that other people have in giving unsolicited advice and commentary.
There are some downsides to this. Some partners may not enjoy this if they value public apprasials from ther partners especially from social media. Also, I remember when Tamar Braxton started dating her Nigerian boyfriend and hid him on social media. I am not sure if he had any or a huge online presence yet. However, many people commented that she needs to post him because if he is cheating or already in another relationship, the truth will reveal itself. I know this example isn't about having an online social media presence but an acknowlegement of one's partner on social media.
I must say - I will not advise or be in a relationship with someone I didn't know for years prior whom I just met and realized has no online presence. With the increasing insecurity and especially as a female, it just helps to know a bank of information or history about a person, whether from personal experiences or through social media.
I have known the person I wrote about in the first paragraph for about five years, and that's just the lifestyle he has maintained. He just enjoys the sanity of being oblivious to social media or drawn to it. If I didn't know the person before, then I'd worry.
I joked about it with a person of a romantic interest who has zero online presence - as bad as not having a WhatsApp display picture. I think this is great for people who enjoy privacy.
It also reminds me of Chimamanda’s recent Blackbox interview with Ebuka, where she said something about her husband being a private person. Truthfully, there are only a few prints of Chimamanda's husband online. I already have a list of reasons to hide my relationships from social media and having someone with no social media presence just gives the perfect free ticket I am looking for.
Having a partner with no social media presence can be good sometimes. For example, I have seen many infidelity issues in a relationship start from online engagements and direct messages. I have read some articles about infidelity that provide research on which gender cheats more. Trends show that women in their late teens and early 20's cheat more by a slight margin, higher than men, while men in their marriageable years 30's and above cheat more than women. I haven't researched further to see the correlations between social media and infidelity, but I want to assume that it has some impact. I imagine that many women will prefer men without social media presence because it gives them a little confidence and trust in their partner.
Other benefits - it just helps people mind their business. Whether at the dating or marriage stage, couples are always bundled with unsolicited advice on social media. Sometimes, someone in a relationship with no online presence reduces the confidence that other people have in giving unsolicited advice and commentary.
There are some downsides to this. Some partners may not enjoy this if they value public apprasials from ther partners especially from social media. Also, I remember when Tamar Braxton started dating her Nigerian boyfriend and hid him on social media. I am not sure if he had any or a huge online presence yet. However, many people commented that she needs to post him because if he is cheating or already in another relationship, the truth will reveal itself. I know this example isn't about having an online social media presence but an acknowlegement of one's partner on social media.
I must say - I will not advise or be in a relationship with someone I didn't know for years prior whom I just met and realized has no online presence. With the increasing insecurity and especially as a female, it just helps to know a bank of information or history about a person, whether from personal experiences or through social media.
I have known the person I wrote about in the first paragraph for about five years, and that's just the lifestyle he has maintained. He just enjoys the sanity of being oblivious to social media or drawn to it. If I didn't know the person before, then I'd worry.